Put under a cut so I can stop getting such jack ass comments on this old post.

Something that really bothered me today… as I was walking to meet a friend for lunch, 3 young black men were walking in front of me. Each of them damn near broke their necks to ogle any woman who passed them that had any amt of breasts, hips or ass.

One of these “gentlemen” almost knocked me over while trying to check out a young lady who’d walked past. I brushed past them and then overheard the following: (Paraphrased cause I don’t have a photographic memory)

BM#1: Damn man, you’re gonna knock somebody over trying to look at those bitches
BM#2: Well that fat fucking bitch almost knocked me down when I was tryin to scope that fine bitch walking by
BM#1: Still, you aint gotta knock bitches down to stare at other bitches
BM#2: That fat fucking bitch damn near knocked me over, say sumthin to her.
BM#3 was silent during this exchange.

What bothered me most is that none of the women they were endangering themselves over apparently warranted much more than being called (fill in the Adj) BITCH… These were young black men, who likely weren’t older than 19 or 20 if I’m guessing their ages right. They already have decided that all women are bitches, and not even worthy of respect.

I think I’m rambling a bit but you all get my point? When did our men become such callous assholes about how to treat women? Since when is it acceptable to just replace woman with bitch or ho?

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Tanya DePass is the founder and Director of I Need Diverse Games, a not-for-profit organization based in Chicago, which is dedicated to better diversification of all aspects of gaming. I Need Diverse Games serves the community by supporting marginalized developers, attendance at the Game Developer Conference by participating in the GDC Scholarship program, helps assist attendance at other industry events, and is seeking partnership with organizations and initiatives. Tanya is a lifelong Chicagoan who loves everything about gaming, #INeedDiverseGames spawn point, and wants to make the industry better and more inclusive for everyone. She’s part of the Rivals of Waterdeep actual play stream on twitch.tv/rivalsofwaterdeep, a partnered Twitch variety broadcaster; and often speaks on issues of diversity, feminism, race, intersectionality & other topics online, at conventions and as a public speaker.. She’s also contributed to publications at Green Ronin, Paizo and Monte Cook Games and is the co-developer for the Fifth Season RPG based on N.K. Jemisin’s three time Hugo award winning Broken Earth trilogy. She’s the creator and Creative Director of Into the Mother Lands, a Twitch supported RPG and Actual Play stream, airing weekly on her channel, twitch.tv/cypheroftyr. Additionally, she is a Senior Annenberg labs Civic Media Fellow at USC. She’s also the creator and Creative Director of Into the Mother Lands, a new sci fi afro-futurist RPG developed with a team of all POC and Black creators; live streamed on her twitch channel, /cypheroftyr. She’s named as one of The Game Awards Future Class 2020, a diverse group of builders, thinkers and dreamers whose voices elevate and diversify our artform. It recognizes individuals around the world who represent the bright, bold and inclusive future for video games. She was also named as one of Gamers of the Year 2020 by Kotaku along with three of her contemporaries. She was also invited to the Xbox MVP program in February 2021. Her work to make the industry more inclusive has been highlighted in Game Changer, Directed by Tina Charles, WNBA star & olympian as well as filmmaker. The short documentary premiered at Tribeca 2021, as part of the Queen Collective; an initiative started by Queen Latifah, supported by Proctor & Gamble in an effort to get more Black women into film making. Game Changer was also featured as part of BETHer’s 2021 Juneteenth Programming on 19 June 2021. Tanya is the programming & diversity coordinator for OrcaCon and GaymerX. She also serves on the Board of Directors for OrcaCon and was named the Chair for Take This in January 2023. She often speaks on issues of diversity, feminism, race, intersectionality & other topics at conventions. Her writing about games and games critique appears in Uncanny Magazine, Polygon, Wiscon Chronicles, Vice Gaming, Paste Games, Mic, and other publications. She’s the editor of Game Devs and Others: Tales from the Margins (2018, CRC Press) and contributed to The Advanced Game Narrative Toolbox. (2019, CRC Press) Writer Bio for pubs: Tanya is the Founder and Director of I Need Diverse Games, a not-for-profit organization based in Chicago. She’s part of Rivals of Waterdeep, an actual play D&D show on twitch.tv/rivalsofwaterdeep; the programming coordinator for OrcaCon & GaymerX; and often speaks on issues of diversity, feminism, race, intersectionality & other topics at conventions. She’s on the Board of Take This as well as a Stream Ambassador, and was part of the inaugural cohort of The Game Awards Future Class. Her work to make the industry more inclusive has been highlighted in Game Changer, Directed by Tina Charles, WNBA star & olympian as well as filmmaker. The short documentary premiered at Tribeca 2021, as part of the Queen Collective; an initiative started by Queen Latifah, supported by Proctor & Gamble in an effort to get more Black women into film making. Game Changer was also featured as part of BETHer’s 2021 Juneteenth Programming on 19 June 2021.

3 thoughts on “Did I miss a memo?”

  1. Just another manifestation of a culture in demise. If you are like me, you just hope that it bottoms out (SOON!) and that things will start to recover.

  2. Cyph, as a black male product of the sixties I feel your pain, but try not to take it too personnally…. these kids represent a demographic that society has all but given up on(thus the prison industial complex) their deprecation of women is a misguided attempt to make themselves feel a little “bigger”

  3. Hmmm… I think the answer to this comment lies with good Dr. Cosby.

    Danny

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